Linda Jeffrey and The Grief Experience

LindaEdit1I received my Doctor of Education degree from the University of Louisville, and also hold a Master of Science degree and a Physician Assistant degree. I lived as a short term missionary in Swaziland, South Africa, prior to my life as a grief coach and author of the book Comfort and Joy.

For personal experience, I am an expert in grief. Although I have earned four college degrees, none of them gave me the tools to navigate a life of sudden turns and repeated trauma that brought grief and loss. I have learned about grief as an unwilling student in a life shaken by sudden death, suicide, and devastating illness. I have been widowed three times, and have raised five children in the midst of earthquake like life changes. Because of a lifetime of repeated grief and loss, I have counseled, written and taught classes on “The Grief Experience” for the past ten years. No amount of education prepares you for multiple experiences of death and loss, but I have found healing in Jesus Christ who is the only One who has conquered death.  To find out more visit my website at, or write to me at


14 Responses to Linda Jeffrey and The Grief Experience

  1. Peggy says:

    Bless you Linda and thank you so much for sharing!

    I read your Guest Post at “God Speaks” and I had to follow and read from you more. Your words seemed to echo my heart and my grief that consumed me over a year ago (I think now) to the loss of a significant other/close friend to suicide. I had grieved the loss of most of my family members before to illnesses but this was so different. I received GriefShare emails for a year afterwards and tried to read a couple of books (some I still have samples of in my Kindle for PC), the best one being from the PARRISHES “Finding Hope in times of Grief” (not finished still)
    but your words rang so near to my heart and touched me deeply. [This is timely for me also, because my sister just wrote me of my last uncle (on my dad’s side) dying peacefully this past Sun. and I cannot be there with family to share and comfort]… However, not any book or Word except from God, could speak to me about the loss from this suicide and God’s healing and forgiveness for being as you prayed “miserable”…focused on self (selfish) actually numb for the whole year after as if I was not present… but your words gripped my heart and I imagine your book(s) will also and I am so sorry for your loss but thank you most heartily for sharing it all for God’s glory. I have bookmarked your blog and will spend much time reading it and hope to one day be able to get your book(s)… I believe one is a workbook and the other a book… as you can see I have not read much but started here. Your emotions seem so raw and real, perhaps all of this is so fresh still to you but I thank you and God for speaking to you and through you to others grieving… I think I am doing better this year than the previous 2 but life and death are difficult topics to cover well, however you seem to have done so and breathed God’s Word into your own recovery and for the purpose of others… I will read on. And I’m so glad that I came across this today in God’s time… everything in God’s timing and indeed His Word brings us the truth and the strength to find hope to put on the garment of praise and take off the spirit of despair or heaviness.

    God bless you and continue speaking through you and to you so powerfully as He heals… God speed or as we say here in MX “Vaya con Dios…” Go with God. Be with God.

    • Oh, Peggy, I wept as I read your words. I have been so focused on my own grief when God has given me so much more than I could understand. I pray that he will carry you in His everlasting arms today, and you will know the love of God that passes knowledge. I found that I could not heal my grief, but I want to spend the rest of my life giving testimony to what He has done. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. My book will come out next month, and I have written it for people like you who are willing to be bold enough to open their broken hearts to God. Your name is imprinted in my prayers today!

  2. jake says:

    you are the best teacher in the world! Noah coy
    you are the coolest teacher in the universe!!!!!!! Jake mcd.
    ur article almost made me cry. it was awesome amen

  3. Phillip says:

    The book is really good!
    I really enjoyed hearing your words on the topic:)

  4. Phillip says:

    I see you in class every day, and you are full of energy and you act like you are so happy. All of the death and grief that has came into your life. Especially the part about John Jeffery. I don’t see how you do it. I to have been coincided with grief and death. It may not seem like I do in class and around school. I was really close to my two uncles, one on my dads side and the other on my moms Uncle Clay(moms side) was in the army, He was a staff Seargent, He was the leader of his team and he was about 33 at the time. One day we got a call saying that my uncle had been killed in the war. They said that he jumped on a grenade to save his squad. He was awarded a purple heart. At the time I didnt know what to do. I was hit in the face. On my dads side My uncle Bill was close to me, almost as close as my dad because him and his wife couldnt bear a son so he treated me like his son. One day whe I was out playing in the rain, My dad got a call saying that Bill had droped dead on the way to his car. Even what bothered me more was that he didnt know Jesus. Nobody knows jesus on my dads side but him. So I bear untill this day knowing he is burning. When I was in the fifth grade I had a crush on Delaney Woodward, so one day while I was at my grandmas house eating a frozen hamburger my dad asked me if I knew Delaney, and I said yos and he said; she died in a house fire on the 22 of december. I dont know if she knew Jesus and if she is at the Age of Accountability.

    Is it possible for God to tell you something through your dreams?
    I have had the same dream for 3 nights in a row they all have a guy in a black leather jacket and he turns his face black and red. I am laying on the side like I am dying. But he pulls out a gun and shoots somone that goes to Christian Acadamey. They were all girls and different every night. But i see them fall dowm and I feel them die, but I stay asleep. But later in my dream I am in a Dark room and I feel the full experence of death,

    Thankyou for writing this book, it helped me alot!

    • Phillip, I am overwhelmed by your honesty, and the depth of your grief. You are so young to have faced so much grief. I pray that as I wrote the book, God gave me something in it that is just for you. This dream is truly frightening. At the very least, it is a call to pray for our school, and the forces of darkness that war all around us. We must hold on with the tightest grip to our savior who has power to save us. I want you to think about memorizing Psalm 91 this summer. One verse a day, Monday through Friday, and then review what you memorized Saturday and Sunday. I will pray with you the promises of Psalm 91 for our school and for you and your friends.

  5. Matthew and Evan says:

    We will miss you next year you were our favorite teacher of all time
    We love you

  6. Hi Linda, this is Daniel, a leader at Forerunners uk, I am sory that we didn’t really get time to talk but me and my wife Lyn were so touched by hearing about your experience. We have both experienced awful grief in our lives and now know something of God’s love in it’s place, and I feel that we are being called to minister into the deep pain and grief of many places. We mean to follow your blog and study some of what you have experienced. God has so clearly helped you. Thank you Linda.

    • I am so blessed to hear from you and the Forerunners. You will always be in my heart. The favor of God is upon your work, and I am so glad we were able to celebrate in worship together! Our best days of ministry are ahead!

  7. Thank you Linda….The best is yet to come!

  8. Jasmine frazier says:

    It’s awesome! Also just so you know who I am, I’m delanie a old friend. I really miss her, she was near and dear to my heart. I’ve also lost another friend, dallin clevenger he died last year. I’m really trying to get over it but every time I think about them, I cry a river.

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